It must be acknowledged that the Feminine and the Masculine are Equally Subject and Object during Sx
I Rarely see Pornography which objectifies Men for Consumption by Ladies. Playgirl is an Obvious Xample. But the Creators of Playgirl have made the Mistake of adopting the Male Model of Pornography and reversing the Gender Roles, placing Idealized Male Models in Poses for Ladies to look at. This Technique fails to account for the Difference in what arouses Ladies vs. Men. While Men are Clearly aroused by Graphic Displays of the Feminine Form, the Context ( Environment ) of this Display providing an Amusing Back Drop but Little More ( hence All those Spare Apartments and Lame Plots in MainStream Pornogrpahy ), Feminine Sxual Arousal, as opposed to being so Bodily Focused Necessarily ( Men are, Admittedly, Hairy and Coarse ), is All about Contxt. I think the Contxt in which a Lady Finds her Self and the Man is Vital to her State of Arousal. What does the Decoration look like in the Room the Man is posing in? What can be learned about the Man from his Environment? What are the Subtle Emotional Clues in his Body Language? His Manner of Speaking? His Dress? For me, what a Man’s Body looks like, on a Physical Level, gets lost in the Larger Scheme of Things. Physical Appearance is Tertiary to a ) his Attitude, and b ) his Life Style.
An Other Reason I think Ladies have a Difficult Time watching or looking at Commercial Pornography is the Lack of Love xpressed between the People in the Sxual Encounter. The People in Most Commercial Porn Shoots are having Sx with Each Other for Money, not Love, and the Essence of this inTeraction colors the Shoot. It is Hard, when Love is what turns you on ( and for Most of us, it is ) to get turned on by a Commerical XChange ( try and succeed as our Culture might have in this Regard in Many Cases. Please recall : Money is not Real. Love is ).
I believe that More Ladies would watch Porn if the inTeractions they saw in Pornographic Media were based on Love, the Sx in the Porn being conducted between People in Love Relationships with One an Other
I believe More Ladies would watch Pornographic Films or look at Pornographic Images if these Featured Couples, Three Ways or Sets of Couples who are Very Much in Love. I believe this Love would transcend the Images and be imparted on the Viewer. I believe this Type of Pornography will be Far More Satisfying to those producing it and to those consuming it than MainStream Patriarchal Pornography, which is Constantly pushing Boundaries in Terms of how Many Golf Balls can be shoved up a Lady’s Ass, but has yet to teach us Any Thing about how to conduct Relationships with People ( besides Xploitation for Cash / Orgasm by the Viewer, the People performing the Act, and the People who commissioned the Act ). Porn is a Seedy Business. Let's make it Utopian. Let's cultivate Some inTimacy.
Bodies for an im'Proved Erotika
An im'Proved Erotika would focus on Diversity ( of Body Types ) for its Own Sake
There are no Perfect Bodies : there are Only Fascinating Bodies
Two Simple Solutions to the Question “ How do I make Better Porn? ”
- Diversify the Perspectives Pornography is shot from as Well as the Sxual Identities / Body Types being depicted in the Media
- Prioritize Love Based Relationships between Participants in Pornographic Media
Andrea Coates and jody franklin use a Back and Forth Camera Technique